Lesson on grief is in two parts

“Grief is in two parts. The first is loss. The second is the remaking of life.”

-Anne Rope

And the second never really ends.

We are forever re-creating ourselves.  This happens with or without the intervention of death.  Each day, we are re-born, but most often in small, easily unnoticed ways.  Then comes the inevitable experience we all dread:  the death of a loved one.  In that moment, we are hurled into a new world, a world in which everything is familiar, but nothing is the same.  A world we are supposed to know but no longer recognize. 

With your loved one’s death, you have been re-born — and birth is never easy.  Take your time. Remind yourself to breathe.  Talk to your dead loved one.  Call them by name.  Ask them to help you remake your life.  They will.  And you will carry them with you into it.


Further suggested TrueSolace reading: A Healthy Attitude When Grieving

Further suggested outside reading: When People Say, ‘You’ve Changed’ After a Loss by John Polo at themighty.com